Yay for pre-teen boobs!
Oh yes, the memories.
i think it’s so cute when straight people think they’ve never met a queer person. that’s adorable. you’re adorable.
I think it’s cute when people blame straight people for being born.
you’re right!! that’s exactly what i said in my post!!! reading comprehension a+ i’m so proud
I keep asking myself what it takes for a trans woman to be passable. i’ve seen a lot of videos of girls where they talk about the subject and how they feel that they do not pass and honestly, for me, some of them really pass.
This subject is hard for all of us because is the very real representation of how we are accepted in our society. This binary world conditions us to be in certain way and is a mandate that we need to obey. So, is this feeling of “no passing” rooted on our own mind and soul or in the society that surrounds us?
In order to be accepted by “the” society, we should fit and follow its standards. One of those standards is beauty. So the question gets reduced to: do I pass as a woman or do I pass as a “beautiful woman”?
The image of perfection of a woman implies that you need to be slim or thin, perfect hair, perfect skin and so on. How many women that we see on the street have masculine features? broad shoulders, tall as hell, big hands… Nobody says anything to them and is just because they are just woman and they do not second guess themselves because they are in the only way that they know how to be: woman.
So, our passability rate could depend on having women features but also in how confident we are with our body, our clothes and so on. We feel like we do not pass because we are insecure of our body and how we look like and is absolutely normal. Why is NORMAL? because we are in transition, we are in this fucking puberty where we are learning to deal with our new body, thoughts, emotions. That is why we do not feel like we pass, we are insecure in the way that we present ourselves in our quest for approval and validation.
I am sure that all of us can pass. We pass. 99% of our passability rate depends on our own security. If you are going out, dont go looking for strangers’ looks. They always are going to look at you, but that does not mean that they are trying to see if you are a man or a freak. Maybe they are looking at you because you have purple shoes with a fucking Gold dress…
Like i said 99% depend on us and the other 1% is something that we can fix with a little bit of Botox, fillers, extensions and so on. Those things help and a LOT.
I think I am going to need more than writing this entry to convince myself that i can do it and pass. I am going to need to read it several times to be strong and give 5 fucks to everybody else.
'Passing' is about courage, and about attitude as much as it is about physicality. I know women, wonderful cis women who if placed under the societal microscope of trans-determination wouldn't 'pass', but they're women, they know that and never see a reason not to inherently understand that.
It took many years of fear and frustration with myself and my body, but it finally came to a head when I had the sudden realisation that none of my body image issues are related to my being trans, they’re simply related to me being female.
It can be really difficult. It’s scary to have a take-no-prisoners approach to others view of you. To laugh when someone misgenders you and make them feel uncomfortable. To look at someone in confusion when they think they’ve ‘figured you out’. To some people this advice could be dangerous, not because of you, but because of others.
We have to remember that though. Even when we bear the brunt of being careful and cautious, it’s not our fault. It’s not ever your fault that someone might misgender you, or insult you. It can never be your fault for someone thinking you are not what you are.
hey could you pass me one of those snoods
liSTEn hERE THI S HAS GON E ON FAR TOO LONG THIS IS NOT WHAT I WANTED TO BE KNOWN FOR I WANTED TO GO FAR IN LIFE BUT NO I’M STUCK HERE WITH OVER 29 THOUSAND PEOPLE AND NO FUCKING SNOODS THIS IS NOT THE LEGACY I SIGNED UP FOR
Dying of laughter.
this is the real first page of a real book by a real Fox News host
is this the real life or is this just a fantasy
ah yes, obama’s infamous War on Sweet Tea
It’s 9pm and dinners almost ready to come out of the oven, in that golden state of perfuming the entire house with baked butter and pastry.
The rain comes and goes in waves. Right this moment it roars down from above like drops of thunder on the thin roof, each drip a clamour trying to stand out. The rain dips and the down pipes become audible again. The sky is so dark.
My love is in the other room looking beautiful in her giant jumper and learning about anatomy and I’m lying in the living room just listening to Shawn Colvin and talking to old friends, catching up with people I’ve not talked to in years.
The past few weeks have been starting to feel like I’m getting stuff done, that I’m beating my illness. That I might have a chance at being happy. I’m so excited.
and the award for best picture caption goes to…
tumblr made me think about a lot of things but mostly social justice and my eyebrows
bro, you cant just self-diagnose that you are gay. you need a prescription from a board certified homosthesiologist
#yeah you know what’s really funny #that’s exactly what happens to trans people.
How can you know how big space is, stare out at space, see pictures of the beauty that’s out there, and be like “yeah there’s only two genders.”